This post is dedicated to my unmarried lady friends, and even for those of you who are engaged or just married.
A few nights ago, my husband and I were routinely brushing our teeth before bed, and as I looked up and locked eyes with Caleb in the mirror, I just felt it again - simply sheer unbelief that I'm the incredibly lucky gal who got to marry him. Several times a day, when I'm with him, I'll be overcome with amazement when I look at him. He is SO attractive. In every way...
I'm writing all of this because I want to express how essential it is to feel attracted emotionally, physically, spiritually and in every other way imaginable, to your spouse. Every time I look into his eyes I can't resist the feeling of being drawn in, like a magnet. I can't look away, he's so beautiful to me.
How did I get so lucky? Me! It's unreal some days, that I'm married - and to Caleb Wilson, no less!
I've been married merely a year and a half; Caleb and I have been together for hardly more than three years. That's not a lot of time, if you really think about it. Especially compared to how much time you spend with your family growing up. But when he's the right one, it doesn't matter if you've been together for three months or three years. You wake up knowing every day that you are with the man you are ready to die for, the man you are going to spend the rest of your entire existence with, the man you want to share yourself and everything with.
Of course love isn't a feeling... it's a choice, really. But there has to be something there; that "spark" really does come to play a crucial part. You can choose to love someone, but you cannot choose to be attracted to someone. Attraction is an odd thing - it's there for a reason though. It intensifies those moments of unity in marriage, like when you're sharing an inside joke or you understand each other completely while just talking or simply glancing at one another.
So, ladies... my single lady friends, when you do get married, I hope you find someone who continually sweeps you off your feet, who you can honestly be in awe of and captivated by for the rest of your life. Someone you want to serve and share with, someone who makes you feel entirely free and at home in them simultaneously. Because infatuation does run its course, but attraction is a seasoned version of that initial twitterpation, and if it's real, that attraction will never fade with the love you have for your man.
And if you are engaged or married - learn to keep the spark of attraction alive! It's not difficult... creativity is a good place to start.
There is so much to look forward to in marriage, dear single ladies, and I hope you don't "settle" for anyone who doesn't make you feel extraordinarily alive and loves you exactly the way you are. I know I am married to my soulmate, and I'm generously reminded of it every single day. Marriage is so wholesome and fulfilling if you are patient to eventually discover the right man.
I feel so cheesy saying this, but truly...
Here's to love, marriage, and being a woman!
And the Quote of the Day...
"True love does not force itself on anyone, and it does not force change; it evokes growth. How? First, by accepting one's spouse as he or she is. When we marry we do not sign up to change the other person; we just agree to love him as he is. The best thing a husband can do to change his wife, or vice-versa, is to change himself, to correct his own faults - in keeping with Christ's instruction to His followers."
(~ Unknown)
